Merry Christmas! I pray you to find joy, peace, and love (including self-love) this holiday season. Christmas time is for reflecting on your faith, your goals, and your love for others and yourself.

Jesus sent his one and only son because of his love for you and me. Self-love can look like self-care. It is so important, and in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, we often need to remember to take care of ourselves. How are you doing some self-care during this time of year?

If you are like me, I am a nurturer on steroids. This time of year, I love giving gifts and caring for others. As I say, I am a wife and mom by nature. People refer to me as their Business Mom or big sister. I love having coffee, supporting others, and helping them live on purpose. In saying that, I need to be sure I, too, am living my life on purpose, including taking loving and caring of myself.

Maybe we were taught that self-care is selfish but is it selfish? Or is it necessary so we can help others and be the best version of ourselves? In living our life, as they always say on the plan. “We need to put on our air masks first” to help others put their air masks on.
We need to live by the example of whom we want others to be. In doing this, we can show up to be better Wives, moms, grandmas, friends, or businesswomen as we become the best version of ourselves.  

This is a great time to stop, reflect and ask ourselves some questions:

1. Are you the best version of yourself?
2. What do you need today to be the best version of yourself?
3. What are you doing for self-care?
4. What is one thing you can do for yourself to show self-love?
5. How will this help you improve in all areas of your life?

Let’s rethink how you look at self-love and self-care. Understand it is ok and necessary to take care of yourself in all areas of your life.

1. Spirituality
2. Health
3. Relationships
4. Financially
5. Business
6. Personal growth

Realize that there is a difference between being selfish and self-care. Self-care is about filling yourself up so you can be the best spouse, parent, friend, employee, boss, and person. Selfishness, on the other hand, reflects the “me-first” attitude—determining how much you can get for yourself (often at the expense of others).

Some ways to understand the difference are:

Selfishness prevents you from giving of yourself: self-care enables you to give to others.
Self-care builds Confidence. Once you get the hang of showing yourself self-love, you’ll notice an increase in security that comes with knowing you can provide for yourself. In contrast, selfishness is rooted in an unspoken insecurity that wrongly convinces you you’ll never have enough. With self-care, you know you are enough as long as you prioritize yourself.
Self-care helps bring out the best in you.
Selfishness excludes others, whereas self-care does not.

As we strive to become better than we are, everything about us becomes better too.

As we head into the new year and you work on setting goals, prioritize yourself this next year. Here is to an amazingly successful 2023 in your life and business.

UPCOMING EVENTS

· Jan. 19, 6:30 pm CST, I will speak at Bluejacket Toastmasters. Find the zoom link here. · Jan. 17, 2023, at 6:30 pm CST – “New Year, New You with Sheri Berger and Debbie Deuvall.“ Looking and feeling good from the inside out. Join us for a fun Celebrations party, with a book signing event with Jewelry and happy hour. Wine/food. Register here. · Jan. 30, 2023 – “Here to there Revealed” workshop every Monday -Thursday 11-12:30 pm (over lunch hour)   · Feb 2nd,6:30 pm CST, I will speak at Bluejacket Toastmasters. Find the zoom link here. · Feb. 17, 2023 –Becoming the Best “YOU” you can be: Overcoming challenges Conference in St. LouiseBeginning Friday, February 17th, 2023 to Sunday, February 19th, 2023 ending at 12:00 pm I will be speaking 17th at 10:30 Am. This is a motivational 3-day conference that you can attend in person! You can meet with speakers who tell you about the weak moments in their lives and how they have chosen to overcome and strive to improve their lives. They will share those struggles with you from the stage to inspire you to do the same. Be empowered by the success stories, strategies, motivation, and invigoration!BTBY brings energy and excitement to St. Louis! A group of outstanding speakers comes together to help you Become Your Best “YOU”!You can find your discount tickets here.For upcoming events and great information, check out the event page on my website.More Resources:  Find great information to create the life and business you love on my YouTube channel.

Sheri Berger is the founder of Here to There Consulting. She is an expert in helping people manifest their vision by creating uniquely designed systems to transform businesses and lives. Sheri’s videos provide practical steps for businesses to maximize their operations, achieve their goals and find fulfillment in their personal lives. For upcoming events and great information, Be sure to follow me on social media